- You’re a bad parent if you don’t discipline your child this way
- You’re a bad parent if you do discipline your child
- You’re a bad parent if you don’t feed your child *insert your child’s favorite food**insert organic/homegrown food*
- You’re a bad parent if you don’t breastfeed
- You’re a bad parent if you don’t take your child to a daycare to socialize
The sayings above are all opinions we have heard in the past year of parenting. Now I’m going to say this once and it’s going to be the most important thing you read in this post: WHAT WORKS/WORKED FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILD MAY NOT WORK FOR ME AND MY CHILD!
I’m only going to expand on one of those bullets above because I could rant about every single one of those. Im sure nobody wants to read a novel today.
If you can afford taking your child to daycare 5 days a week.. then you go girl! Buuttt I’m going to say that I like eating and I’m sure my husband and child like eating too.. I also like sleeping in a warm bed every night.. because this momma needs her sleep! There is no way that where we are at now that we can afford to spend easily $300+ a WEEK just to send our child to a place where he can pick up on bad behaviors or be sick and miserable all the time! I worked at a daycare for 4 years, so I completely understand why the centers have to charge so much. And I did love that job, but some caregivers that were hired did not show the same love and appreciation for the little ones like I did. I have witnessed “bad parenting” along with “good parenting”, neglect along with love, and temper tantrums like you’ve never seen before. Without going into too much detail, a lot happened at that daycare in the last year that I worked there, that I vowed I would NEVER have my child in a large daycare setting like that! With that said, we appreciate the ability to take our child to their grandparents house everyday where we 100% know that they are being loved and not neglected. That’s a privilege we have and I realize not everyone has family around to do that! So taking your child to daycare works for YOU! I’m not going to say you are a bad parent for it, so please don’t say I am!
Life with a 1 year old is absolutely nuts.. but in a good way! This tiny human has turned our life upside down and made us realize what’s truly important in life and that’s making sure he is loved, healthy, and learning. Now there are those days where we find ourselves asking “what are we doing?” “Are we being good parents?” “Are we setting a good example?”. 7 out of 10 times the answer is “Yes, you are doing the best you can!” I love watching him play and seeing the little gears in his brain moving as he figures out what to do. He’s also thee biggest stinker! The boy can crawl super fast! you put him on the ground and he is gone within 2 seconds. When he knows he is doing something he will get in trouble for, he crawls really slow to see if we are watching him. Its so cute and frustrating at the same time. He is fascinated with stairs.. he knows how to move the strong sturdy gate just enough to shimmy his small body through!
Parenting has taught me a lot about myself and I’ve realized every parenting style is different. You do what works best for you and most of it is trial and error. You work on something, realize it doesn’t/isn’t working and you try again. We are all human after all! I guess the point of this rant was to keep your hurtful judgements to yourself and only lend some advice when it is meant to be helpful!
Happy Saturday friends!