A huge victory

Our little man is a week old today! He is more alert and loves the sounds of his parents voices 🙂 


FRIDAY: Wyatts glucose has been doing really well that they were able to take his iv out! 🙌🏽 I no longer have a naked baby. Joe and I were laughing yesterday while trying to put him in his sleeper. Poor guy is still too little for a newborn outfit! His blood platelets dropped to 42,000 and doctors began discussing the transfusion more. 

  • A little background on blood platelets: the platelets are what help us clot. As adults we have millions and get more as we get older. Wyatt was born with 70,000 platelets and babies are required to have 120,000-400,000 in order for their blood to clot. When we got to Devos he had 68,000 and as of yesterday morning he has 42,000. So they were drifting down not necessarily dropping quickly. 

SATURDAY MORNING: we got huge news this morning that our babies platelets started to rise. They went from 42,000 to 47,000. They also tested him for a CMV infection. The CMV is a virus that everyone is exposed to and it doesn’t harm us but for babies it can. The test came back negative this morning!! Doctors are going to contie to watch it to see if anything new develops but for now we are in the clear! All this news brought tears to my eyes to see that our son, whom we have prayed constantly for is starting to slowly recover! It’s amazing how our God hears our prayers and answers them! We are loving all of the snuggles we are getting ❤


Please continue to pray that his blood platelets will continue to rise and that it won’t be much longer till our little family is home! 

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Update on our little man

It’s been 3 days since we have been at Devos Children’s Hospital and we have seen major improvements with Wyatt!

  •  He has been taken off of oxygen and can breathe all on his own. Doctors are no longer concerned about that.
  • His blood platelets are still pretty low and haven’t been increasing. They discussed a blood transfusion but doctor seems confident that that won’t be necessary.
  • His calcium and sodium levels are low but are being maintained and stable.
  • He finally got to drink formula from a bottle and was doing really well. Last night they had to put a tube in his nose because he would throw up after eating. We are still bottle feeding him but the poor guy get so tired towards the end that he can’t finish the bottle.
  • His blood glucose levels are pretty all over the place so they are trying to maintain those. They stuck an iv through his umbilical cord Tuesday morning so he could get sugars that way. His levels have been improving since he has been drinking formula.

We are asking for prayers for him to feed better so his liver can store energy and be able to do it on its own. Doctors say that this process could take a couple days up to a week. It just depends on how well his body does.

This has been a huge adjustment for us as we never imagined that we would end up here! We are both trusting god to heal our son and it is a huge encouragement seeing how he is already healing him.

Thank you to all the visitors we have had, all the family and friends that are praying for us back home, and to all of the gifts that have been dropped off to us! We are amazed and feel so loved:) I will continue to keep everyone updated here as it is so hard to answer everyone’s questions. 

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Good morning! I wanted to give everyone an update on our little guy and let everyone know at once what is going on. 

Saturday: My mom and I went to IKEA in the morning and as we were about 45 minutes away from home I started to have contractions 10 minutes apart. They were painful but tolerable. When we got home they started coming 4-5 minutes apart and were more painful! So we headed to the hospital, arrived around 6:30PM. They hooked me up to a monitor and had some concerns right off the bat with his heartbeat. Every time I had a contraction his heartbeat would have major dips and come back up quickly. Wyatt was telling us it’s time for him to be born but my body just wasn’t ready. They checked and I was only 4 cm dilated and to move things along they decided to break my water. 5 minutes later I had a contraction and it was intense to the point where I had stopped breathing and his heartbeat dropped and stayed very low for a couple minutes. Brought me to tears and the nurses started to file in. They moved me to a bigger room and started running as many tests as they could. Around 10:30PM I couldn’t take the pain anymore and got an epidural! I wanted to be strong and stick it out 😉 Wyatts heartbeat went down every time I laid on my back and my left side was the only place I could lay to get it under control! If you know anything about epidural, they’re gravity driven! So my entire left side was relaxed and my whole right side could feel everything! Around 11:15PM they came in and said it was time to pull the plug and do a cesection! I was ready for the pain to be over and to have him out and healthy. 11:37PM  we welcomed our baby boy into the world and he is the most handsome little guy I’ve ever seen! 5 lbs, 7.8 oz. 19 inches. His oxygen and blood sugar levels were dangerously low so he spent the night in the nursery. Joe and I went and got as much sleep as we could. 


Sunday: We got news that he was doing a lot better yesterday! His oxygen levels were much better and they were looking at weening him off of oxygen. We were hopeful we could have our baby in our room and get to hold him. As the day progressed he showed signs of distress and wasn’t really getting any better. The poor guy was uncomfortable.. I mean I would be too if I had so many machines hooked up to me! They decided to keep him on it for the night and continue too watch to see if he got better. 


Monday: We went down in the morning to check up on him and they had switched his oxygen to a lower dose and he was doing really well with it. They said his stomach had so much air in it that’s why he was so fussy. After 36 hours I finally got to hold my precious baby. He slept in my arms and was just so content! He is still learning how to suck and swallow food which is the one thing they are focusing on now. His blood sugar levels are great and his oxygen levels are improving to the point where he can breathe on his own a little bit. They drew blood and his platelets are low which is what is keeping him in the nursery for now. They have put him on antibiotics which means he will be in hotel Mclaren till Saturday. Pediatrician said there is a small chance he can still be transferred to the NICU at Sparrow but really hoping and praying that doesn’t happen! 


It is very discouraging and hard to see moms walk around with their babies and get to hold them all the time, while I am confined to a nursery and having to hold him in a certain position so all of his wires don’t come undone. Mine and joes patience have been tested the past couple of days, but it’s a good thing. We both want him to get better and be able to come home with us! Prayers at this time are much appreciated! I will post more updates as we get them! 

39 Weeks Later…

Hello world! I just wanted to give a quick update on pregnancy and I’m hoping it’s my last update!

  • Cravings in the beginning were pizza… like I literally could have ate it for breakfast, lunch, and dinner! Now I crave blueberry pancakes and hash browns… and death by chocolate ice cream
  • It may not seem like it from the cravings I listed above, but checking my blood is going swell. I have lost all feeling in my fingertip from having to poke my finger 4 times a day… still can’t stand the sight of my own blood! My levels have been great and the doctors are not worried about me having Diabetes after pregnancy which is a huge relief for me!
  • I hate not being able to see my feet, put my shoes on without crying in pain every time I bend down, only being able to sleep on my back because if you sleep on your side it’s like a bowling ball is sitting on your side, and not being able to fit into any of your clothes. Pretty much just never comfortable!
  • I feel like I’m going to explode… any second!
  • Nesting: the feeling/want to clean everything and then clean everything 5 more times!
  • God has provided financially! I get 6 weeks off after he comes but won’t be getting paid. I have been stressed and worried about not having enough to pay for the bills while I am out. But, the guys at Joe’s work came together and gave us a big chunk of cash as a baby gift! Joe has also been on 12 hours for the past two weeks and as much as he hates it and is exhausted but the paychecks are super helpful! We set a goal amount that we wanted to have saved up before maternity leave and thanks to everything we have made that goal and plenty extra! Thank you Lord for providing time and time again.
  • I fall more and more in love with my husband as he continues to tend to my every need without complaining whether it be getting me water, helping me off the couch, putting together baby furniture, or picking up donuts on his way home from a 12 hour work day. I love seeing and hearing how excited he is to be a father and he tells me every day how he can’t wait to meet our little guy.
  • Doctor says he is measuring on time and is pretty sure he will come on his due date. If that’s the case, 7 days left. March 22nd can’t come soon enough ❤FullSizeRender

I watched Fast & Furious.. now you have to watch Twilight..

Have you ever had an “if you do this, then I will do that” attitude toward your spouse? Me too…Honestly I don’t see that type of attitude as a bad thing all of the time. Joe and I have very different tastes in music, movies, and TV shows, which leads to arguments over what to watch next. We’ve learned to compromise and now go back and forth. It’s those small arguments that can be avoided though, if we just choose to not have the mind set of “if I watch this for you, then you have to watch that for me.” Let me tell you, this type of exchange has the potential to wreak havoc on a marriage. It’s not the way god designed marriage to be. Healthy relationships are marked by two givers, serving one another with grace, compassion, knowledge, and love. God didn’t say to treat your spouse with respect and serve them only if they do so in return…which is often a way of thinking I have. Marriage is not a one way street, effort to love and respect has to be given on both sides. I sometimes think that if I am not shown the respect or love I think I deserve in a certain situation then I don’t have to give that back. We are called to love our spouses by serving them with humility. We show our love by counting others needs and wants as more important than our own. Ask your spouse, what’s one thing I can do for you this week?

Happy a blessed Sunday!

#storyofjoeanderica

New year..New vows

2016 was filled with disasters, losses, and sadness for some. For me personally, 2016 was a year of big changes. I spent the first part of the year getting ready for a wedding, finally saying “I Do” to the love of my life, moved out of the place I called home for 13 years, welcomed our fur baby into our family, and in the end of June found out that Joe and I are going to be parents to a little man (which honestly is the biggest change for us). Then spent Thanksgiving and Christmas trying to accommodate to each side of the family, which was a struggle but loved getting to start new traditions and spend time with our loved ones. And in a blink of an eye we were saying “Happy New Year”, well Joe and I actually fell asleep at 10 so we said Happy New Year to everyone in the morning.

For most, there is hope that a new year brings positive changes, stability financially and physically, and healing. Joe and I have been blessed with the miracle of bringing a child into this world. I haven’t always been the easiest on myself when it comes to physical appearance, so at first the thought of getting bigger and all the body changes I would go through scared me! I was not emotionally ready for this. After a while of praying and talking to other mothers I realized that it is normal to feel this way and that you can’t control how big you get! You’re growing a human for heaven’s sake lol I will say one thing that I have struggled with is all of the questions, opinions or concerns everyone has about your pregnancy. The things they say do not always come across as loving and is a blow to my already low self-esteem. God gave me a body that is able to do something so grand as grow a human life, and not every woman is so fortunate. It has made me realize my body is supposed to be used for far more than looking perfect. It can do far more than look perfect. My body is far from perfect but in the same aspect it is absolutely perfect because god has given me one of the most precious gifts a woman can receive.

I do not usually make New Year resolutions because I find them pointless and I never stick to them anyways. This year is a bit different as we are going through big changes and I want to make sure I am the best wife and mom I can be. So this year I vow to be:

More understanding – less ignorant

More loving – less cruel

More disciplined – less neglectful

More sympathetic – less unfriendly

More patient – less impatient

More accepting – less rejecting

More positive – less negative

More organized – less messy

More adventurous – less cautious

My hope for this year is that everyone can find hope in a time of weakness, a strong love, and something their truly passionate about. Everyone is going to have their struggles but how you deal with them shows who you are as a person. Who do you want to be this year?

Have a blessed day!

6 reasons i’m thankful for him

I feel as if every blog post, I brag about my wonderful husband in some way… and this one will be no different. I have so much to be thankful for this year and he is at the top of my list. We have had our fair share of ups and downs in the past 6 months since we got married, but each and every struggle has brought us to a stronger place as a couple. It is so easy to give up and move on, or point fingers when times get tough, but it is better to create an atmosphere of gratitude and positivity. Focusing on gratitude gives you a sense of appreciation for one another as well as giving you respect for the relationship you have built.

Today is thanksgiving 2016, and I am truly thankful for Joe every day, but I have found 6 reasons I am extremely thankful for him today.

  1. I have the ability to share my day with him. Every night after he comes home, the first question is always “how was your day?” and he either responds with a good or bad story. We get to tell each other every aspect of our day, share stories and reflect on ways we could have handled a tough situation at work differently. Before we got married, we wouldn’t share as much because it was hard to get out everything that happened in your day over a text if we didn’t get to see each other that night. Now that we see each other every single night, I feel more connected to him.
  2. The face that we found each other. We grew up with each other at church and never once did I see Joe as more than my best friend. God had a plan for us, and I am thankful that he changed my mind because I would not be the woman, wife, or mom to be that I am today. Nowadays it seems as if there are so many ways to meet people that sometimes it can feel like a miracle when you do find your match. Joe is my miracle, and who would have thought that after 14 years of being friends that we would be where we are today.
  3. The ability to share my burdens with him. When you’re single, you choose to share your issues with your family or friends, or keep them to yourself. Joe and I have been together long enough to know when something is wrong or we are upset about something, so offering advice has become my favorite thing. I trust in his support and love when he listens to me and offers his input that will help me handle whatever I am going through. A relationship requires one another to act and think as a team and I am thankful that I have him on my team.
  4. The friends and family who support you. Good relationships with in-laws and your partner’s inner circle are nothing to take for granted. I am grateful for the relationship we both have with each other’s families and friends. The day I got married, I gained a hardworking father in-law, a mother in-law who is always putting her family first, and two kind and caring sister in-laws. This family has welcomed me with open arms and has always been there to support me. I was a bit shy and always making up excuses as to why I couldn’t hang out with his friends because I was scared they wouldn’t think I was good enough for Joe. Now I regret not hanging out with them sooner because they are the nicest group of people you will ever meet. I am lucky to call them my friends now too.
  5. The ability to share chores. I hate taking out the trash and Joe hates cleaning, so we compromise and I am grateful for all he is willing to do. He is always in the kitchen helping me prepare dinner and the first one to help clean up after we finish eating. He often does the laundry, mainly because the boy has more clothes than I do… since I have been pregnant, he is always making sure I have everything I need and am comfortable. Propping pillows up for me, getting me water, attending every doctor appointment, and running to the store to buy me ice cream when I have to have a certain flavor right then. He has been incredibly supportive and I am thankful that I get to raise our son with him by my side. I have found that dealing with everything is easier to manage if split between two people.
  6. The successes we have shared together. As a couple we have had personal bests, our career goals were met, and my absolute favorite is when we successfully pay all of our bills and still have money left over at the end of the week – YAY for financial successes. I get to be successful with the one person I couldn’t live without and that alone makes it worth it. Successes can be measured by so many different lengths, and it is important to appreciate all of them every day.

Be thankful for the ones you have in your life and tell or show them every day how much they mean to you. In marriages I believe showing your thankful, leads to a healthier marriage and who doesn’t want that?

I hope everyone has a happy turkey day!

#storyofjoeanderica

 

Thankful Sunday

With Thanksgiving right around the corner, I thought I would spend this Sunday’s blog listing things I’m thankful for, but first here’s something that got me to this topic.

I spent Wednesday night having dinner with my soul sister, Lindsey. After we parted ways, I began my journey home. As I was driving home in a daze, just listening to the music playing on the radio and not really paying attention to my surroundings…which is the first thing they tell you in Drivers Ed, “always pay attention to what’s happening on the road.”.. A blue truck came out of nowhere and cut me off, parked sideways to block traffic. I was filled with anger as I could have hit this guy, but that quickly went away when I looked directly to my right where a SUV was laying on its side, shattered windows and everything she had in her car is now sprawled out all over the concrete around her. I was immediately filled with thankfulness, because if that truck hadn’t cut me off I would have hit that SUV and who knows where I would be right now. As I sat there taking it all in, men started jumping out of their cars to try to flip this car back over to get the family out of there. I rolled down my window to listen to what they were saying, and all I could hear was “there’s a baby in the backseat!” My eyes quickly filled with tears. I still keep thinking to myself that if that truck hadn’t cut me off I would have hit directly where that little boy was sitting and he probably would not have made it. Reading the report the next day, it said that both the 1 year old boy and the mom are fine and resting in the hospital, however the mom had been drinking and was turning a corner at 65 MPH in a 45 MPH zone. As a human, my reaction to this situation is complete and utter disgust and belief that this woman should have her child taken away from her. As a Christian, my reaction should be to pray for this family and be thankful that they are okay. I don’t know what the mom is going through or was going through at that moment, but as a mom-to-be, I can’t imagine living with the pain and guilt of putting my child’s life in danger for the rest of my life.

I am so thankful that God was watching over me, and this accident definitely opened my eyes to how good I have it. I made a list of a couple things I am thankful for:

  • Thankful for a husband who loves with everything he has, my best friend and comforter, a hard worker who does everything he can to provide for his family, loves cooking with me, and I even love his obnoxious snoring…sometimes!
  • Thankful for a loving family; a mom and dad who support their children and believe in their dreams, siblings who also support each other and want to see the others succeed
  • Thankful for friends who have become more like family, Kelsey for being my first best friend and for never letting long distance be an issue, Lindsey for being my rock these past couple of years and someone I can depend on, I am happy I can say that you will be a lifelong friend, Emily for being the little sister I never had but always wanted, you are going to do big things and I am lucky I get to be along for that ride, Erica for staying in my life even after high school ended, you’re the best icepack a girl could ask for, McKenna for being there for me through literally everything and anything, it take a lot for someone to do that for my crazy life, and you have taken it like a champ, and Kaylee for being my high school best friend forever and always, we may not see each other that much now but you will always be the friend that has left the biggest impact on my life. I can’t thank you all enough for everything you have taught me through-out the past couple of years!
  • Thankful for a healthy baby on the way, who is already loved, more than he or she will know, by so many.
  • Thankful God has provided funds for Joe and I when we needed it. We were able to buy a house, furniture, and groceries on a weekly basis.
  • Thankful for a roof over my head, a warm bed, and clothes on my back.

I have it better than some and it shouldn’t take witnessing an accident to make me realize that, but it did. My hope is for everyone to live their life to the fullest but always be careful. Be thankful for the life you have and the people God has placed in your life!

Have a blessed day!

#storyandjoeanderica

Struggles with social media

Here is another thing I have been struggling with, and I’ve struggled with it long before I became a wife. Social media!

I have come to the conclusion that I spend more time looking at a phone screen and tapping my way through Facebook and Instagram than I do focusing on my marriage. I have been convicted lately about how much attention and time I give to social media.

I’m disheartened by how much of my confidence comes from how much affirmation I get from responses to a photo or status update. Even more so, how much I compare my life to other people’s online. I find myself looking at their photos and posts and wishing I had their life. Social media breeds anxiety, especially in us ladies – wives, mom’s, or singles ready to mingle.

It’s funny because if you had the ability to look to the left or right of that friend’s “perfect life” Instagram post, we would probably see a mess of things. In other words, their reality probably isn’t far from our own reality.

Social media allows us to show pieces of our lives, and only the ones we choose to show, which are often just moments of triumph or joy. Posting those moments is not a bad thing, however the trouble begins when we start perceiving these as reality and not simply a beautiful moment in time.

Too many times I stumble into wanting something in that person’s life. Whether it is their financial wealth, cute clothes, a husband who intentionally thinks about cooking dinner or bringing home flowers…whatever it is, I somehow find myself comparing.

I read a passage from Colossians the other day, which really put my addiction to social media into perspective.  “Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. (5) Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.” Colossians 3: 2 & 5. This particular passage shows me that God is giving us instructions on how to live, and how to prioritize.

You can walk into any restaurant or store and see an entire family or just the parents glued to their phones, not having a conversation with each other but caring more about what happened in other’s lives while they were at work or on the drive over to the restaurant. Knowing that Joe and I are bringing a child into this world, I would really like to stray from this way of living and focus more on each other and our friendships. Asking each other questions like, “how was your day?” “Is there anything you are struggling with?”

Social media isn’t all bad. I do believe it can keep us connected to people we love. It becomes bad, when it becomes a source of false security or imbalance in our lives. It’s easy to find validation in things that steal our attention, social media is just one of those things. It’s my prayer that I would give Christ all the power for defining me, giving me worth, and giving me purpose. My prayer for others who struggle with this, is that you turn and look at your significant other, and question whether or not you are doing everything to the best of your ability to grow with them. Do you know everything about them and are you focusing your time and energy on getting to know them. It should be a priority in your lives.

Have a blessed day!

#storyofjoeanderica

Woah.. there’s a baby on board!

We interrupt this Sunday blog by bringing some big news: THERE IS A BABY ON BOARD!

Just like most things in life, finding out that I was pregnant did not go anything like I imagined it would.

I had a feeling for a couple weeks that something was off, however being pregnant was not my first thought. My friends kept reassuring me that it was just my anxiety and being newly married that was throwing everything off. They told me not to worry about it, and me being who I am couldn’t help but worry! As my friend Lindsey and I took a trip to Target to pick up a couple tests, I started to feel butterflies in my stomach. For some reason I couldn’t shake the feeling that I had a baby on board. We got home and I nervously went and took the first test, I was so nervous I didn’t want to see the result. I gave the test to Lindsey and we waited for what seemed to be the longest 3 minutes of my life. The look on Lindsey’s face as she looked down at the answer on the test brought me to tears. She said those 2 words that I had been secretly hoping were going to be the opposite of “you’re pregnant!” In that moment every emotion you could think of raced through my body. I immediately thought there was no way! Those tests aren’t always accurate so I waited a couple more minutes and took another test. Again, I forced Lindsey to look at it first. Once again, the same words “positive” showed up. We both were shocked and in disbelief… and honestly I still am!

Everyone says that I shouldn’t be nervous to have a baby because I’ve worked in a daycare for 4 years, but that doesn’t mean I know everything there is to know about babies. However, it is very different when you are raising your own. While working at a daycare, I gained patience, the ability to multitask, and a sense of communication with little ones, but I still have a lot left to learn.

Joe and I always talked about having kids after we had been married for at least a year. So when I found out we were having a baby after being married for 4 months, made me scared. What if Joe was upset about having a baby so soon? What if he really didn’t want kids? All of the “what ifs” ran through my brain moments after I found out. Luckily my husband is the sweetest guy I know, and was truly excited, even more than I was. You’re always going to have that sense of “we aren’t ready for this” because let’s face it, you’re never ready for kids. I am blessed to be married to a man who is willing to go to every doctor’s appointment, wait on me hand and foot, and make sure that I am comfortable and happy! Our sweet baby, we are patiently awaiting your arrival and this next adventure!

Hope everyone has a blessed Sunday!

#storyofjoeanderica

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